I was recently hired to take some family photos by a lady. Her request was that her ex-husband come along so he could have photos with his teenage son. Of course! That sounds like a fantastic idea! The ex-husband arrived with his new wife and two "littles" in tow. I expect tension. I expected trouble posing them to look nature. I didn't expect what I got.
This is how it should be. People staying family. People welcoming new people into their lives. To say my heart was swollen when I left them would be an understatement. THIS is how we should all live our lives. The hurt maybe doesn't ever really go away, but to deny yourself the richness that inclusion brings would be the real travesty. If you loved them once, don't lose sight of that. Move on, but still love.